Signs of Domestic Abuse

There are many signs of an abusive relationship but the most commonly seen one is that of fear of the abuser partner. Other signs include a partner who belittles or tries to control the abused person. To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.

Do you: -feel afraid of your partner much of the time?

-avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?

- feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?

- believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated? wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?

- feel emotionally numb or helpless?

Does your partner:

-humiliate, criticize, or yell at you?

-treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?

-ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments? blame you for his own abusive behavior? - see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?

Does your partner:

-have a bad and unpredictable temper?

-hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?

- threaten to take your children away or harm them?

- threaten to commit suicide if you leave?

- force you to have sex?

-destroy your belongings?

-act excessively jealous and possessive?

-control where you go or what you do?

-keep you from seeing your friends or family?

-limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?

- constantly check up on you?

If you answered most of these questions as "yes" then you are probably in an abusive relationship. Denying the results of these answers can be life threatening.

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